A-44-year-old man from Lusaka’s Maichola, Kabanana Compound, Zambia, has dragged his wife to court for repeatedly saying he has a small manh00d, b3ating him and also using foul language on him in the presence of their children any time they quarrelled.
Cletus Sambondu told the Matero Local Court that his wife of four years was not only the boss in their home, but also a brute, who would b3at him whenever they had a misunderstanding.
Sambondu married 35-year-old Anna Tembo in 2022 after paying about K4,000 as dowry.
According to him, when he just married Anna, she was as peaceful as a dove and they enjoyed intimacy on regular basis.
However, things changed just within a year of their marriage, when Anna abruptly started denying him s3x, saying that his manhood was small.
He complained that his wife would also turn violent whenever he requested for s3x, claiming that he smells.
“We married in 2022 and everything was going well,” he said.
“In early 2023, she started refusing to sleep with me.
“She would beat and insult me in the presence of my stepchildren.
“Whenever I called people to help reconcile us, she would beat me after they left.
“There has never been peace at home. Her love has been on and off.
“We involved our families, but nothing came out of it. She beats me a lot; at one point I even reported her to the police.”
He added that sometimes his stepchildren would also join their mother in physically abusing him whenever they had a fight.
“For my safety, I have decided to leave this marriage. Her three children have stopped respecting me.
“At one point, she even accused me of being a thief in my own house,” he added.
Meanwhile, Anna told the court that she started beating her husband after she caught him playing with his manhood while watching blue movies on several occasions.
She admitted to denying him conjugal rights after repeatedly finding him pleasuring himself.
“I started teaching him a lesson after I found him playing with himself while I was sleeping beside him,” she explained.
“Another time I found him doing it in the toilet, then in the kitchen. I would find sperm on the bed sheet even when we hadn’t met at night.
“One day, I found him using Vaseline and releasing on a towel.
“The first time I caught him, I slapped him. He spends all his time on the phone. We never talk.
When he enters the bedroom, all he does is watching blue movies. There is no time to discuss anything,” she said.
Anna further told the court that her husband was a drunkard who drank recklessly every day and would miss work for three to four months at a time.
Despite Anna informing the magistrate, Harriet Mulenga, that she still wanted to continue with their marriage, the court granted the couple a divorce, stating that the wife had no respect for her husband.
After listening to an audio recording in which Anna was heard insulting Cletus, Mulenga ruled that the wife was the bigger problem.
“There is no respect in this marriage. No matter what, you cannot cooperate.
“We have heard of marriages where women beat men. If you respected him, he would not have resorted to masturbation.
“It was also wrong of you to slap your husband. There is no way you can tell your husband that he has a small manhood and expect him to have confidence with you.
“That is why he plays with himself, he has lost confidence.
“Respect is cardinal in marriage. How many times will you get married?” asked Mulenga.
The magistrate ordered Cletus to pay K500 monthly maintenance for the couple’s one-year-seven-month-old child.
She also ordered that household goods be shared equally and ruled that no compensation be paid to either party.
